မိမိရင္ေသြးကုိ ဘယ္လုိေစာင့္ေရွာက္မလဲ (၂)

ေမး =
မိဘ ေတာ္ေတာ္မ်ားမ်ားက ကေလးေတြ ဘဝမွာ တုိးတက္ ေအာင္ျမင္ဖုိ႔ အတြက္၊ အရာရာတုိင္းကုိ တတ္ေျမာက္ေစခ်င္ၾကတယ္။  ဒါေၾကာင့္ ကေလးေတြကုိ ေတးဂီတသင္တန္း၊ အကသင္တန္း၊ အားကစားသင္တန္း  စတဲ့  ေက်ာင္းအျပင္ သင္တန္း ေတြကုိ တက္ခုိင္းၾကတယ္။ ဒါနဲ႔ပတ္လုိ႔ ဆရာ ဘယ္လုိျမင္ပါသလဲ။

ေျဖး=
အကယ္၍ မိဘေတြက ေငြေရးေၾကးေရး၊ စြမ္းအား တက္ႏုိင္တယ္ဆုိရင္ ကေလးေတြ ဘဝတေလွ်ာက္လုံး  အသုံးက်မယ့္ စာသင္ခန္း အျပင္ဘက္မွ အျခားသင္တန္းေတြ တက္ခို္င္းတာကုိ အားေပးပါတယ္။ မိဘေတြက ကေလးေတြကုိ ေသေသခ်ာခ်ာ ေစာင့္ၾကည့္ရယ္၊ ကေလးေတြရဲ့ စကားကုိလည္း ေသေသခ်ာခ်ာ နားေထာင္ရမယ္။ ဒါမွ ကေလးေတြရဲ့  လုိခ်င္တာနဲ႔ လုိအပ္ခ်က္ကုိ ကြဲကြဲျပားျပား သိပါလိမ့္မယ္။   မိဘေတြက ကေလးေတြရဲ့ ရုပ္ပုိင္းဆုိင္ရာ တုိးတက္ေျပာင္းလဲမႈနဲ႔ စိတ္ပုိင္းဆုိင္ ရာ တုိးတတ္ေျပာင္းလဲမႈေတြကုိ အသက္အရြယ္အလုိက္ သိရွိ နားလည္ဖုိ႕လုိပါတယ္။

ေမး =
 ကေလးေတြ ဒီလုိ အသစ္အဆန္း အတက္ပညာေတြ ေလ့လာေနစဥ္မွာပဲ သူတုိ႔မွာ စိန္ေခၚမႈေတြ၊ ျပင္တင္ေဝဖန္မႈေတြ  ေတြ႕ၾကဳံရာရင္ မိဘေတြက ဘယ္လုိ္ကူညီႏုိင္မလဲ?

ေျဖး =
 ဒါနဲ႔ပတ္သတ္လုိ႔ ေစာေစာက ဆရာေျပာခဲ့တာကုိ ျပန္ၾကည္ရေအာင္၊ ကေလးေတြကုိ စကားေျပာတဲ့ အခါမွာ လူႀကီးေတြ သိပ္သတိထား ဖုိ႔လုိတယ္။ ကေလးတုိင္းမွာ ထူးျခားတဲ့ သင္ယူ ေလ့လာနည္း စနစ္ေတြ ရွိတယ္။ တခ်ုိ႕က သင္ရတာလြယ္တယ္။ ဒါေပမယ့္ အေပၚရံခဏပဲ၊ တခ်ုိ႕ကေလးၾကေတာ့ ခက္ခက္ခဲခဲ သင္ယူ႔ရတယ္ ဒါေပမယ့္ ေလးေလးနက္ရွိတယ္။  အကယ္၍ ကေလးတစ္ေယာက္ဟာ တုိးတတ္မႈ မရွိဘူး ေႏွးေကြးတယ္ဆုိရင္  အခ်ဳိ႕ဆရာနဲ႔ မိဘေတြက  စိတ္ပ်က္ၾကတယ္။

သုိ႔ေသာ္လည္း ဒီကေလးဟာ အမႈအရာမျပပဲ အရာအားလုံးကုိ ၿငိ္မ္သက္စြာနဲ႔  နက္နက္နဲနဲ ေလ့လာ
 ေနတာျဖစ္ပါတယ္။  ဒီကေလးနဲ႔ပတ္သက္လုိ႔ လူႀကီးေတြက ေရရွည္သည္းခံဖုိ႕ လုိအပ္ပါတယ္၊ ႀကဳိတင္ခန္႔မွန္း ျပင္တင္ေဝဖန္ ဆုံးျဖတ္ျခင္းကုိ ေရွာင္ၾကဥ္ရပါမယ္။

မလုိလားအပ္တဲ့ ျပင္တင္ေဝဖန္ မႈေတြၾကာင့္ ကေလးေတြရဲ့  ပညာရပ္သင္ယူရာမွာ ယုံၾကည္မႈကုိ တားျမစ္ရာေရာက္ပါတယ္။ ဒီမွာ က်ေနာ္ ကေလးငယ္မ်ားအတြက္ မိဘေတြကုိ တစ္ခုေလာက္ ထပ္ေျပာခ်င္ပါတယ္။ ကေလးငယ္ေတြ တစ္ခုခု ေလ့လာ သင္ၾကားေနရင္ မိဘေတြက အေဖာ္လုပ္ေပးပါ။ ကေလးငယ္ဆုိုတာ လူစိမ္းေတြနဲ႔ ရင္ဆုိင္ ရမွာကုိ ေၾကာက္လန္႔တတ္ပါတယ္။  ကေလးငယ္အရြယ္ ပညာစသင္ခါစ မွာ မိဘေတြက အေဖာ္လုပ္ေပးျခင္းျဖင့္  အတတ္ပညာကုိ အလြယ္တကူ ေလ့လာႏုိင္ပါတယ္။
ဆက္ရန္ ( ၃ )

Q: Many parents believe that their children have to master as many skills as possible in order to succeed in life, and therefore enroll them in extracurricular activities like music, dance, sports etc. How do you feel about this?

A: If it isn’t too much of a stretch in terms of finances, time and energy, I support the idea of letting young kids learn some extra skills outside of the classroom which will be useful and enriching throughout their lives. Parents should observe and listen to their children carefully, and thereby get to know their children’s wants and needs. Parents must be aware of the different physical and psychological phases their children will go through at different ages.

Q: How can parents help their children when they encounter challenges or criticism while attempting to learn a skill?

A: This really goes back to a point I made earlier: Adult need to be careful of what they say to children. Each child has a unique learning style: Some learn fast but perhaps superficially, while others learn slowly but perhaps profoundly. If a child doesn’t seem to be making adequate progress, some teachers and parents get annoyed. However, it’s very possible that the child has been absorbing everything quietly without showing it. Adults need to be patient and refrain from jumping to premature judgments. Any negative comment you make might block a young mind’s confidence about mastering a skill. Here I’d like to add another point for parents of very little children: Try to accompany them when they are learning something new. Little children are easily threatened by new people, settings and challenges. Youngsters who are in the early stages of learning a skill feel more at ease that if they are accompanied by a parent.